I think he has it right. This idea of "falling in love" is the world's distortion of "ahava," and this has to be built on "rya" if it is going to succeed, or if "ahava" shows up first, we know "rya" must very quickly be established (or lit if you are still working with the flame analogy). If "ahava" is continually fueled and cultivated without fueling and cultivating "rya," you end up with the world's distortion - Satan's lie.
Ultimately, we desire to be like Christ and to love as Christ loved in all our relationships. The love that is not addressed in this video is the love of one's enemy, to love when it is hard, when the object of your love is undeserving of it. What then? How do we love someone who is unlovable in our eyes? We must remember the cross; we must remember Jesus Christ.
"For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:6-8).And,
"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us" (1 John 4:7-12).